I've had many friends ask me how to win a man's heart. Seems every magazine has a new article every week on how to make a man fall in love with you. Truth be told, no matter how much we study love, we will still never fully understand it. In fact, it's not even love that we are studying. It is chemistry. Chemistry happens in an unexplained way, while love is a choice made in a responsible manner from a Christian perspective because love is action. Chemistry for some is opposites attracting. For others, it is seeing a mirror image of themselves and no one can tell you which kind of person is in front of you.

When it comes to matters of the heart, let's just be real... most of us are as clueless as the day we were born. LOL! I know I am. However, I have learned that changing who you are, even temporarily, to win someone is not the best way to start a relationship. Otherwise, you look up several years down the road and resent the person in front of you because of something you did... deceiving them and deceiving yourself. Yes, we should be adaptable, but not deceptive.

So, how do you win "his" heart? Be yourself. Be funny sometimes. Be odd sometimes. Be all the things you are and if he can hang with that, then he'll give you his heart. If he can't, why do you want him anyway? Lord knows, the real you can't hide forever and we don't want him to discover the real you on wedding day (then instead of a wedding, he'll be calling for an exorcism)... Joking... just joking! (I almost had this happen to me. I'll tell that story later.)

Keep it real with your chosen guy. Everyone deserves to be loved for who they are and who they will become.


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