Dena was tired of Lamar's crap. She wasn't going to stand by for any more lies. She grabbed her bags and headed toward the door. She opened the front door and paused, turned around to face Lamar, and with tears in her eyes she said, "And to think I not only loved you, but you were my hero."
With that, Dena walked out of Lamar's life forever. There was never a sadder image, not that of a hurt woman walking out the door, but of a man who woke up a day late. It was as if he could hear those words over and over and over again. And after a string of women in and out of his life, no matter how much they cared, none of them ever looked at him the way Dena had. None of them saw him as a hero. Many didn't even see him as a man. WHAT IN THE HELL HAD HE DONE?!!!
It took a long time, but the day came when he and Dena crossed paths again. Only now, she was Gary's wife. Gary was a happy man. Lamar could look at him and see it. Dena was a happy woman and he was still looking for someone to have and to hold, that would love and honor him. DAMN, MEN CAN BE DUMB!
Maybe the day would come when he'd see that look again, when someone would love him and honor him again. But if not, he'd had it once in his life. He'd had a real woman who understood how to treat a man and he'd lost her because he was afraid to commit. But men, that doesn't have to be your story. You don't have to lose your woman. But once you've drained the well dry, gentlemen, it's too late then to say I'm sorry. There'll be no more water for you.
Guys, you need to learn how to grow in love with a woman and see her for who she really is. Learn the value of inner beauty versus the fleeting outer variety. And don't be afraid to be honest about your fears. It's better to keep your cards on the table than to hide them and wake up one day with nothing left.
COPYRIGHT 2010 LACRESHA HAYES
ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.
With that, Dena walked out of Lamar's life forever. There was never a sadder image, not that of a hurt woman walking out the door, but of a man who woke up a day late. It was as if he could hear those words over and over and over again. And after a string of women in and out of his life, no matter how much they cared, none of them ever looked at him the way Dena had. None of them saw him as a hero. Many didn't even see him as a man. WHAT IN THE HELL HAD HE DONE?!!!
It took a long time, but the day came when he and Dena crossed paths again. Only now, she was Gary's wife. Gary was a happy man. Lamar could look at him and see it. Dena was a happy woman and he was still looking for someone to have and to hold, that would love and honor him. DAMN, MEN CAN BE DUMB!
Maybe the day would come when he'd see that look again, when someone would love him and honor him again. But if not, he'd had it once in his life. He'd had a real woman who understood how to treat a man and he'd lost her because he was afraid to commit. But men, that doesn't have to be your story. You don't have to lose your woman. But once you've drained the well dry, gentlemen, it's too late then to say I'm sorry. There'll be no more water for you.
Guys, you need to learn how to grow in love with a woman and see her for who she really is. Learn the value of inner beauty versus the fleeting outer variety. And don't be afraid to be honest about your fears. It's better to keep your cards on the table than to hide them and wake up one day with nothing left.
COPYRIGHT 2010 LACRESHA HAYES
ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.
Some women (and men) treat marriage as if it is the end prize. Needless to say, those women (and men) end up a few years later disappointed with what they thought would be romance city and no worry island.
Marriage is just a new beginning. Once you had a life that you could live for just you. Now, you are a part of an entity that is bigger than you. Once you had freedom to thinking and decide all things on your own. Now, you had the responsibility to share your thoughts and come to joint decisions with your mate.
Marriage is the kind of hard work that makes you proud of yourself at the end of the day because every time you look over to your side and see a supportive and loving spouse, you know that every bit of sweat was worth it.
Marriage is just a new beginning. Once you had a life that you could live for just you. Now, you are a part of an entity that is bigger than you. Once you had freedom to thinking and decide all things on your own. Now, you had the responsibility to share your thoughts and come to joint decisions with your mate.
Marriage is the kind of hard work that makes you proud of yourself at the end of the day because every time you look over to your side and see a supportive and loving spouse, you know that every bit of sweat was worth it.
It's a Wonderful Life ruined many would be wonderful lives, huh? Who doesn't want a romantic, upstanding, respectable young man who is willing to lasso the moon for you? Naw, that movie should inspire us to dream bigger and expect more out of ourselves and our potential mates. It can be a wonderful life if we want it to be, if we pay attention to the smaller things, if we honor the person we say we love, and if we go that extra mile without holding it against the person we're going all out for.
Change your mindset. Your potential husband should be willing to lasso the moon and give it to you.
Change your mindset. Your potential husband should be willing to lasso the moon and give it to you.
Okay, have you ever seen a chubby, nerdy looking guy with a bombshell? Who hasn't? And we all end up asking the same question- "How did that happen?" LOL
I've come to realize something- most people, especially if life has been difficult, only want someone who will love, honor and cherish them. And beautiful women are often mistreated like regular women. They are cheated on, beat up and misused. So, before you get to thinking you need better looks to keep a man, just look at the long list of babes who are divorced and heart broken.
Things that make you say hmmmmmm
I've come to realize something- most people, especially if life has been difficult, only want someone who will love, honor and cherish them. And beautiful women are often mistreated like regular women. They are cheated on, beat up and misused. So, before you get to thinking you need better looks to keep a man, just look at the long list of babes who are divorced and heart broken.
Things that make you say hmmmmmm
